Be You!

Well lets face it we’re all scared of the Oblivion… but the simple fact is that we are all gonna die (the sooner you accept this fact the easier it will be). There really is nothing we can do about dying, but you can choose to live your life in a way that will make you completely happy. So in the last days of your life you can say you had no regrets.

We don’t regret the things we did even if they were  mistakes, we call them life lessons and move on from them. By making mistakes we learn and grow as people but if you’re too scared to make a mistake how do you possibly grow. Take a chance and do what you love because in the end do you want to say ‘I lived a life that I was never truly satisfied with’ or do you want to say ‘I lived a completely amazing  life doing all the things I wanted’. I know which I want to say in my last few days. In the immortal words of J.K. Rowling –

“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not lived at all – In which case you fail by default”

So what now?

Once you make the chose to live the life you want the real hard part begins, now it’s time to figure out what you want form your life. Why is this the hard part you might be asking? Well there is a whole world out there and a billion paths you could take in your life but most only know the obvious. The path that goes a little like this- School- University- Marriage-Job- Children (This is a simplified version of this path). If this is the path for you cool, do you boo. Just don’t chose this path because it’s the safe one if your hearts not in it. To me this path is too linear; it’s all one after another.

So firstly I’m gonna tell you what my personal path is, then I’m gonna tell you how to find yours.

I personally know that I want to help people, that and make art. I need a way to help people while still been able to be creative. That’s why I decided I wanted to do volunteer work in third world countries. While I’m there I can be inspired by the local art, tradition and culture. My art comes from what I see and experience. Well that will be one hell of an experience (I hope, I haven’t started yet I’m still in school but when I do I’ll defiantly take you all along with me). I don’t know where my path will lead me from there, well I guess that’s the beauty. I’m just gonna have to wait and see what happens. I really like that, not knowing where I’m going from the end of sixth form, is yes, very scary but it’s also the most exciting thing that I could do. This isn’t for everyone, many people would be petrified but weirdly I’m not scared of going I’m scared of what my mom will say/think (but that’s a post for a different day). The thing about my path is I don’t know where I’m gonna start from I might get a job and save money first or I might just take off one day out of the blue. I still don’t know, but as they say –

“Life’s a journey, not a destination”.

But enough about me, you really want to know how to decide what path you need to take. Just always remember at any time you can change paths just because you’re on a path now doesn’t mean it’s the right one. You just have to have courage and conviction that you’ll know the path you’re meant to be on when you find it.

So how do you find it?

1. Know who you are as a person. Know what you like and what makes you happy. What do you do for fun and what are your passion and hobbies (do you see a theme the word ‘You’ and ‘Your’ keeping coming up. Take the hint this is not about other people this is for ‘You’)
2. Look for the trends in the stage above. This is basically looking for recurring themes and ideas in your personal profile. For example-The themes that I discovered in my own list ( I wrote all this on a piece of paper, I’m gonna tweet the list later maybe) were as follows-
   • Different world countries I wanted to see.
   • Different types of arts and crafts.
   • Different charities that I liked.
   • Food  (enough said).
3. How can all these things on your personal profile comes together to make on path for you. Now this is the hard part and it does take some time. Just don’t stress, for some people they find their path really easy for other like me their path is really hard to find. Sometimes it does take some time like I only really knew that I didn’t want to go university in the last few weeks (I knew I wanted to travel and do charity work, but I though I’d do all that after university). For I long time I thought I wanted to go university but then I realised that I really didn’t, all I really wanted to do was leave home. Well going university was all about getting away from home. That’s not the reason you should go university, you should go because you want to.
4. Next steps. Once you find your path and know what you what you want to do, you then have to figure out the ‘How’ and ‘When’ (I’m struggling with the ‘When’ my self, so don’t worry too much). You want to set a realistic time frame for all this. I’m not saving you need to know what will happen ever minute of every day, all I’m saying is don’t plan to start on your new path when you know that I will not happen because of a commitment that can’t be broken(such as an exam). this will only lead to you being disappointed. Also don’t wait too long to start your plans, The longer you wait the harder it becomes, just keep this in mind when you are waiting-            
5. Start on your new path. It’s that simple and that hard so just Start.

Well that’s it, that’s all the advice I have on this subject. I do want to say one thing your path is never set in stone, you can always change it. So don’t worry Just ‘Be You’. I wish you all the best of luck on your path. let me know what happens because I’d really want to know where you end up.

X Anisa X

 

 

What is the Oblivion?

There are so many things that happen every second of every day that sometimes we forget to take notice of the little things that are actually pretty big. Babies are born, lives are lived, parties are thrown and life goes on. But we are all faced with the impending doom of the inevitable oblivion, the darkness at the end of the journey that we call death. We talk about death, life after death and the various in-between’s that may be possibilities for us – by us I refer to those who are conscious. We cannot determine whether or not there is a life after death, it is a fact we will only truly discover once we have fallen into the abyss, however, the fact that were are conscious is an indication of something more than nothingness resulting in the belief in the big S. A ‘Something More’ existing for us souls that leave the bodies we now inhibit.

“There will come a time when all of us are dead. All of us.” John Green

This inspirational quote from John Green’s The Fault in Our Stars has become an important saying in modern-day society, we now have teenagers attempting to be articulate and profound reading books with big words or watching films of old classics, that they continue to regurgitate to anyone who will listen. The decay in originality and creativity is so great that people don’t even recognise this regurgitation is equivalent to that of a high school student regurgitating the entire contents of their brain in an exam they have no hopes to pass as they blame their teacher for their lack of concentration and dedication. However, the point being made by Mr Green is an important one, the fact that death is ultimately inevitable to everything and one and could occur at any given time to any given person despite their age health or other factors is just a consequence of living. Once you are born your purpose is to live until you are no longer capable to, this realisation can result in two kinds of reactions the pondering of the meaning of life and what eternity is or the acceptance of the fact that death is inevitable and that we shall all eventually fall into an oblivion and continue to live in the same manner as the rest of society and the cultured world we inhibit.

“We are going to die, and that makes us the lucky ones.” Richard Dawkins

Most people will never be born, never have the opportunity to live or a chance to even fear death. He came to the beautiful epiphany that “The potential people who could have been here in my place but who will in fact never see the light of day outnumber the sand grains of Arabia.” we will not be remembered for who we are or what we have done. Two-hundred years from now some names may be recalled, some few people who did things that you nor I have ever heard of occurring. There will be new technology, new advances, new mentalities. We shall be no more than relics, a memory of a race that is slowly dying yet persist in fighting the inevitable oblivion the entire way. We could take this inevitability to mean that we should all just give up, that there is no point in life, that the human race should fall into decadence that is worse than that of the 1920’s and more demoralised than the worst of our criminals.

We could take this inevitable oblivion as an omen to destroy ourselves, slowly or quickly, it matters not. Or we could decide, consciously, that our oblivious can be beautiful, bright and colourful. We could choose for our lives to mean more, despite the fact that we will be forgotten. We can stop caring about what is right and what is wrong because life is not a single palette with black and white on opposing sides, it is a spectrum much like the one we see when we look outside of a window or similar to the scale of frequencies we hear when we listen to a song. We can do something amazing, we can accept the oblivion and through this accept the freedom we all deserve to choose. To chose sexuality, love, life, forgiveness, to be forgiven. To chose our own paths in life whatever they may be, career wise as well as within our personal lives we should be able to have a choice of whether or not we want children, whether or not we dress or act in a specific way. We should give others that choice. We could do all these things and when the oblivion finally greets us, when death knocks on your door and asks you to take his hand you can accept it readily. You can smile at the face of the oblivion and shed the body and see what we spend our lives contemplating, craving, dreading and fearing. You can leave the bodily realm and you, the soul, can be free and enjoy the beauty that you have created within that one instance.

War, murder, death, theft, hate and jealousy. We may never experience everything but in the oblivion we will experience true life. By fighting for gay rights, feminist motives, humanitarian wants, equality, lives of others, hope, love and kindness you are making the oblivion less daunting. We cannot stop oblivion but we can make it a beautiful thing, beautiful enough to give us peace in our deaths, no matter how we may die. My way of making oblivion beautiful is through words, Richard Chenevix Trench once said “Words convey the mental treasures of one period to the generations that follow; and laden with this, their precious freight, they sail safely across gulfs of time in which empires have suffered shipwreck and the languages of common life have sunk into oblivion.” This is why I will be writing this blog, to share with the future generations, the rest of the universe, that  we can accept oblivion and move forward, that we can see, accept and shape the ‘bigger picture’ every soul is a part of. Oblivion is inevitable but it is also a beautiful thing to watch humanity live in knowledge of this and continue to make their individual oblivious a nirvana. Because this is what we crave, an end to life that is freedom from life and our consequential suffering, forged from the extinction of individual passion, hatred,and delusion. 

This is what our Blog will be about our own little nirvana’s the way in which we make life better for not just ourselves but others, future generations and those alive today. We’ll discuss topics that we feel need addressing whether they are common or not, just the stuff you wander about at night before you slip back into the deepest part of your mind when you are no longer within your body but you are free to wander, your mind, heart and soul as you drift into a temporary state of ecstasy.

Shell X